Sharing in All Things
In our last post I shared with you the purpose of our role as homemakers and keepers of the home. Today I want to share with you a few tips for how to go about doing this without growing overwhelmed. A way which I fully believe is scriptural in nature and how God sees the family of the church as one family.
Just a quick reminder of the role I’m referring to:
Titus 2:4-5 (KJV)
“that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5) To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
Did you notice that he never said, “to be discreet, chaste, PERFECT homemakers who do it without any help from others, good, obedient to their own husbands,” He didn’t say it! Somehow we get it in our heads that He meant that.
But the reality is; Mary chose the better part even while Martha was being the perfect little homemaker.
The reality is: The virtuous woman from Proverbs 31 had help!
Proverbs 31:15 (KJV)
“She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.”
Yes she rises early to prepare for her family but look, she also provides a portion to her maidservants. That means she had help!
Now I am not suggesting you HAVE to go out and get a maid. Although, if you and your family can afford that kind of help there is nothing wrong with it. But, I am suggesting that it is o.k. to ask for help.
- Give daily chores to your children. As they get older let those responsibilities increase.
- It is o.k. for your husband to help. In fact, he is commanded to LOVE you and part of loving is to help where needed. It’s also o.k. if he doesn’t fold the towels properly because they are going to get messed up again in a day or 2 anyway.
- It is o.k. to share house keeping with your best girlfriends.
- Have a laundry day party! Rotate houses, go to hers one week, yours the next.
- Freezer meal planning days with a group of sisters from the congregation.
- Cleaning exchange days. Hop over to your friends house and offer to vacuum while she cleans the bathroom. Then hop back over to your house and switch off. Think creatively! Plus the kids will love playtime with their friends and then have everyone clean up toys together at the end. You will bond with this friend over dirty floors so much more than you ever imagined!
Sharing in All Things
When I was in my 20’s I had such a friend. We cooked together, did laundry together, painted walls together and so much more. Then I had to move. I miss her dreadfully. But what I learned from that time is that getting help from others to manage the God-given roles He has placed before us is not only O.K. it is what the LORD designed for our lives.
Consider this verse in relationship to your role as a homemaker.
Acts 2:46b (KJV)
“And they, (the church) continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, did eat their meat with gladness and singleness of heart,,”
Ladies, we are a part of that same church. We can continue breaking bread from house to house and being of singleness of heart in each and every role that God has blessed us to have. If we love and support each other in such a way, our burden will be lighter and our hearts will be stronger for our purpose “That the word of God be not blasphemed.” Go ahead, ask for help. I promise it will be o.k.