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Sin Lies at the Door!

Who at the Door is Standing?

Sin at the door

When Sin Lies at the Door turn to God.

If you were driving home alone and you knew someone was waiting outside your front door and he or she was hoping to get you, would you be afraid? Would you turn around and drive to a friend’s house to avoid the danger? The obvious answer is yes!Of course we would all go to great lengths to ensure we were safe! We would go to a friend’s house, grandparent’s house, probably even an acquaintance’s house to avoid this inevitable danger.However, every day we as teens and young adults drive straight into situations where sin is lying at the door and its only desire is for us. I see this as the biggest problem for young adults and their parents in the church: misjudging situations before it is too late to turn back.

In Genesis 4, Cain and Abel each make offerings to God and Abel’s is acceptable, while Cain’s is not. This makes Cain very angry, but this is the admonition God gave to Cain in Genesis 4:7 (NKJV) “If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.” In this scripture God gives a simple three part explanation of how sin works. He says that first, sin lies at the door, secondly, the sin desires us, and lastly, we should rule over it.


In this story, God recognized Cain’s anger and knew it could lead to sin. Cain was putting himself into a mindset and situation that could (and as we know did) set him up for sin. This is true for adults and just as much for young adults and most of us are fairly new Christians just learning our way. It seems that every recreational activity revolves around some form of sin. We as young adults have to be people who think ahead. Most teenagers and young adults want to live on the edge and not think about tomorrow but we as Christians don’t have that luxury.Paul teaches us a fundamental principle that “the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do” (Galatians 5:17, ESV). We have to understand that sin is always a desire of the flesh and we must always have our guard up because sin is always at the door.


The next thing God says very simply to Cain is that because of his weakened state and anger, Satan understands that and desires him. I think this is something that we as Christian young adults and our parents don’t generally consider. Peter encourages us to be “sober-minded” and “watchful”, telling us that Satan “prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour” (1 Peter 5:8, ESV). Often we fool ourselves into thinking that because we go to church, attend church functions, etc. that the devil will shy away from us or that we’re in a “safe zone.” This is such a misconception! You can be the strongest Christian in the world, but still struggle if you put yourself right in the way of temptation. Sin and Satan want nothing but to see us fall and stumble and give in to sin and we only make it easier for Satan if we put ourselves in sinful situations.


Rule Over Sin

Lastly, I think God simply gives Cain a vote of confidence. Even though it looks like the odds are against him, God tells Cain that he can rule over this sin. If you do misjudge a situation, there will still be a way of escape for us to find our way out. This is a promise from God Himself. Paul says, “but thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 15:57, ESV). We have the most precious gift that Cain didn’t have. We have the example of a Savior who was tempted like we are but overcame every single time: He is the perfect example of overcoming sin and understands all of our weaknesses.
In conclusion, sin desires us and it’s hard for us as young adults to judge situations before we put ourselves in them and we need the help of our parents. Although we sometimes act like we don’t need your help, we do so very desperately. We need your instruction to look for sin, recognize its desire for us, and how to defeat the sin. With your example and the sacrifice of Christ, we can be victorious and rule over sin.

RSixteenHolly Pannell is a resident of Oklahoma and loves her home state. She is a sophomore in college and will be attending the University of Oklahoma in the fall. She enjoys spending time with her family, eating Italian food, working out to offset the Italian food, and watching Oklahoma football. Although Holly is an accounting major, freelance writing is one of her greatest passions. She is excited to see what God has in store for her and hopes her writing will touch people in a way that encourages and strengthens them.



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Learning Respect from Sorrow

Seeking a Clean Spirit

It’s easy, so very easy to get caught up in the here and now. It’s easy to forget our roles in the moment of our need. We forget to put the needs of others above our own even those we love dearly when we are outside our zones of comfort. It can only be by choice that we rise above our self desires to seek the higher good of another. 

As wives, we want to honor and support our strong leader husbands and show them all of our love. We know that they have needs that are just as important as our own, and yet in the moment we can forget that and speak to them or treat them with less than respect. Recently one wife was faced with that moment.

Repentance from Sorrow
Chantelle Swayne, blogger at Happy Healthy Holy Home, is sharing her blog post with us today as she came to understand repentance after a moment of weakness. Be sure to click the SEE MORE button below to read the entire article. She sets a beautiful example for us on seeking to have a clean heart within.

Ephesians 5:33

“Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respecther husband.”

A Not-So Happy Holy Morning: Learning to Love

Written by Chantell Swayne from Happy Healthy Holy Home

My alarm clock sounded at the unfamiliar time of 5:30am, and with every bit of strength I could muster I rolled over and hit the snooze button.  I regretted with every ounce of my being the rash vow I had made the night before. Did I really say I would cook my husband breakfast before he went off to the gym that morning? I had half gone back to sleep when I felt my husband’s hand gently rocking my shoulder, “Hun,” he said, “are you going to make me breakfast?”
I think at that point I may have said something about bananas in the waves, but I cannot really remember; it is all a bit fuzzy. I am known to say some pretty strange things in my semi-conscious state.
Somehow I managed to wake up enough to get out of bed and begin breakfast at 5:40, though rather grumpily. My husband was hovering, hungry and in a hurry to be out the door. I really had gotten out of bed too late.
“Why do I have to make your breakfast?”  I kept thinking, “I’m so tired! You really should be so grateful for what I give to you!” I also think I may have said this audibly. Maybe a few times. I definitely grumbled a lot.
As my husband went out the door (a little later than he wanted to, because I had not wanted to get out of bed) he asked me if I could take some boxes to the trash on my way out, as he would not have time. “Sure, I’ll just do everything!” I responded disrespectfully and sat down to finish my coffee…
Happy Healthy Holy HomeChantelle is a 26 year old Australian married to an American missionary currently living in Singapore. She grew up in Australia, where her father still preaches full-time. She and her husband met because he decided to go as a missionary to Australia in his early twenties. They’ve been married for 4 1/2 years. They worked for 3 years together in Australia before moving to Singapore where she am studying–while her husband teaches–at Four Seas College of Bible and Missions. As well as their work in Singapore, they make it a habit to travel at least once a month to somewhere else to work for the weekend. So far they have been to Jakarta (Indonesia), Can Tho (Vietnam), and several congregations in the neighboring country of Malaysia. She feels abundantly blessed with so much: opportunities to learn, opportunities to serve and a wonderful godly man who loves her and is incredibly patient and talented. Chantelle shares her story regularly on her blog Happy Healthy Holy Home.
~Article written by Team Member Renee Brown

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Submission is a Command

Are You Choosing to Obey?

We live in an age where we are bombarded by media telling us that women are equal to men. Many denominations are attempting to follow suit and make it so. Many wives are choosing to take leadership roles in the family, leaving men home to care for children while they go out and earn a living. And, our society backs it up, lauds it as modern roles and wraps it up in a nice bow so it looks like its the right thing.


Submission in Marriage


Let’s examine this reality:

Ephesians 5:22,23

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.”

Colossians 3:18

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”

Titus 2:3-5

“the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,  to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”

These statements are made with command by Paul who was given authority as an apostle of Jesus Christ to teach for the purposes of edification.

1 Corinthians 1:1a

“Paul, called to be an apostle of Jesus Christ through the will of God…”

2 Corinthians 11:5,6

“For I consider that I am not at all inferior to the most eminent apostles. Even though I am untrained in speech, yet I am not in knowledge. But we have been thoroughly manifested among you in all things”

2 Corinthians 13:11

“Therefore I write these things being absent, lest being present I should use sharpness, according to the authority which the Lord has given me for edification and not for destruction.”

While it is true that these words were written nearly 2000 years ago and the society we live in today is vastly different than the ones that Paul was writing to, the truth of God’s word remains the same.

2 Timothy 3:16

All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness,

1 Peter 1:25

“But the word of the Lord endures forever.”

While our society may look different today, that in no way gives us permission to negate the commands which we find in scripture if we are truly believers of the word of God. The reality is, Satan is a liar and deceiver, he roams about seeking whom he may devour. By subjugating and entire society his goals are made easy and the society becomes slaves to sin without even being aware of it.


I am not saying that a woman can’t work outside the home. But I am saying it is not her place to take the leadership role, the authoritative role within the family. Her role is to submit to her husband.


~This article written by team member Renee Brown.


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To Cleave Unto Each Other

Truth for The World Shares the Truth About the Word Cleave

Cleave Unto Each Other

How should a husband and wife cleave unto one another? That’s one of those words that could mean multiple things. But God said from the beginning that a husband should cleave unto his wife. It must be very important for marriage. So what does it mean? Today, Truth for the World is sharing their article “Cleave Unto Each Other: What Does That Include?” with the R16:16 readers. We encourage you to link through to see all of the wonderful marriage materials that they have.

Cleave Unto Each Other: What Does That Include?

Cleave Unto Each Other

3 Thoughts on What Cleaving Means in Day-to-Day Marriage

“Cleave” is a funny word.  It can mean two different things that are practically the opposite.  You can cleave a piece of wood which essentially breaks it apart.  Or you can cleave unto another being which essentially pulls you together.

 There are a bunch of uses of the word “cleave” in the Bible, and generally it seems the 2nd definition is being discussed.  This is true in regard to marriage as well.  “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)  God means that when a man and woman become husband and wife they must cleave to each other.  Even though the verse only mentions the husband as the one doing the cleaving, the latter part of the verse indicates that it is to be mutual.  The word “one” here is translated from a Hebrew word that means “united.”   The husband is to cleave to the wife, and the wife is to cleave to the husband and thus they are to be united.  We could not have unity if one or the other were pulling in an opposite direction.

But what would the idea of “cleaving” really mean to me in my day-to-day marriage?  God told us to cleave to each other but what does that include?

  • Hold On Tightly – Grab your marriage tightly and try the hardest you possibly can to never let go or never give up.  Think of the strongest glue possible binding two pieces of wood together, or the nut so fixed on the bolt that it will not turn to come off.  They are so tightly bound that the world can pull on them and bang on them and beat them, but they never separate.  Never let the words “divorce” or “quit” even be part of your vocabulary.  Tell your spouse, “I’m in it to the end!” and mean it!  How reassuring it is to a spouse to know that no matter what arguments or trials in life may come, and no matter how mad we may get at each other, eventually we will calm down and cleave together because we are both committed to loving one another and we have told each other so!

Tight Marriage Bond

  • Submit To One Another – Ephesians 5:21-25 states, “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”  We are to submit to each other and that’s what love is.  Love is putting others first and yourself last.  Say to yourself, “I am here to cleave to and serve my spouse, not to serve myself.”
  • Cleave To God – The Bible has several verses where people are told to cleave to Him.  (Deuteronomy 10:20, 11:22; Joshua 22:5, 23:8; Acts 11:23)  We will never be the best husbands or wives we can be if we are not cleaving to God and building ourselves up as Christians.  Let His word be the final say.  Let His priorities be the family’s priorities.  Let His role for you in the marriage be your role.  Let communication to Him and study of His word be practiced.  Draw closer to each other as you draw closer to God.

We invite you to use the resources of Truth For The World to enhance your growth as a Christian and your marriage, including our several TV programs on marriage in our series Words To Live By: Home and Family.  They can be viewed on our website here:

Submitted by: Kendal Rasnake, Truth For The World

(All verses used are from the King James Version)

Truth for the World is a global evangelism effort of the church of Christ using media and personal ministries. The work is overseen by the church of Christ at Duluth, Georgia.


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Choosing to Prioritize our Husbands

Making Active Choices About our Marriage

Women make choices every day. We choose what to make for dinner, what clothes to dress the children in, what tasks on the do-do list will be completed and what we will prioritize as important on any given day. Some choices are easy and others are more difficult. Some are made for us by happenstance while others are deliberate and with consideration. When we made the choice to become brides, we made a deliberate choice to marry a man.

Choices about Marriage

Then we set off in life and many of the choices we make there after fall into the happenstance category. Over time and after children, our decisions become less and less deliberate and more and more rote, when it comes to the day in and day out of taking care of the home and family. Over time, sadly, our marriage can begin to take a back seat to our children. Choosing to prioritize our marriage must be an active choice. We must not allow Satan to have a stronghold but rather we must allow our husbands to be our heads, and lead and guide us and we, as wives should love them submissively. Recently Melissa from Maidservants of Christ came face to face with the reality of making active decisions about her marriage. Below is a snippet of her article, be sure to click through to see more and read her entire article.

Prioritizing Husband

What’s Best For Him

Written by Melissa from Maidservants of Christ

I love my husband desperately.  This became clearer than ever when he made a recent business trip overseas. Finding out that six days was going to turn into ten, I cried bitter tears.  It was foolish, but I couldn’t help it.  I need him that much.  The days leading up to his return found me thinking of what I could do to make his homecoming great. Cleaning my bedroom was a monumental task. (Ask Helene; she helped). I made sure the sweet tea had the massive amount of sugar he loves.  When he finally arrived at eleven at night, I went to the car to greet him in the subfreezing temperatures.  I love my husband, and I wanted home to be a place of peace and happiness for him.

Then I realized something. My goal should be a peaceful and happy home for him every day, not just when he’s gone.  Not only that, but there are more things…- See more at: Maidservants of Christ

Melissa lives in Tennessee and is the mother of 3 children. She and her co-blogger Helene blog regularly at Maidservants of Christ. Their goal is to speak the truth in love to those who read their blog. They aren’t afraid to tackle the tough stuff but do so with compassion and love. While your visiting be sure to subscribe to get all of their great articles right in your inbox.


~This article written by team member Renee Brown

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Making the Most of Marriage

A First Thing Rather than an Afterthought

At R16:16 we are a directory of bloggers, businesses and readers who are members of the same body of believers while being active on the internet, learning from and supporting one another in our efforts. Like anything, the internet can be used as a tool for good or it can become a trap of Satan to keep us from focusing on first things. We must be diligent in our efforts to follow God’s will for our lives. 

Making the Most of Marriage

One of the ways we can focus on first things is to make marriage a priority. We need to remember that our relationships with our husbands and wives should come before our business, blogging or other internet related activities. That isn’t to say these things aren’t important, but rather that we should consider marriage to be more important. I’m also not suggesting that marriage should take precedent over our relationship with God, no but rather God should be first in our lives, and IN Christ Jesus our Lord, husbands should love their wives and wives should submit to their husbands. Ephesians 5

1 Corinthians 7:3

“Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.”

This month at R16:16 we are focusing on Making the Most of Marriage. We will offer encouragement, ideas and scriptures to help us each to determine to place our marriages in order of importance, making it a first thing rather than an afterthought.

~This article is written by team member Renee Brown


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Serving Even When We Don’t Like It

To Obey is Better than Sacrifice

Service in the Church

How often do we choose which service we want to be involved in? We claim our gift lies in certain areas therefore we don’t have to help in other areas. But is that true? Or is that a selfish way of interpreting scripture? Consider this:

1 Samuel 15:22,23

“So Samuel said:

“Has the Lord as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices,
As in obeying the voice of the Lord?
Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice,
And to heed than the fat of rams.
23 For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft,
And stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry.
Because you have rejected the word of the Lord,
He also has rejected you from being king.” “

This is what the Lord through Samuel said to King Saul following his outright disobedience to God’s command. You see, Saul thought that he knew what was better than God regarding the destruction of the Amalekites. He thought he could save the good animals and King Agag. He said it was to offer sacrifice to God. But Samuel explained that to obey is better than sacrifice.

Perhaps you don’t see the connection. Maybe your thinking, ‘What does my sacrifice have to do with serving?’ Serving when we don’t want to, or don’t like to, or don’t agree with decisions, is a sacrifice on our part. It requires sacrificing our own desires, wants and opinions for the purpose of being obedient. You see God desires that we be obedient to Him. He wants us to follow the leaders that He has placed over us, whether it be our elders, deacons or for wives, husbands. If we choose to not be obedient we are choosing to lay aside our sacrifice in exchange for our selfish desires. 

But does God even want our sacrifice in the New Testament church that He established? The answer to that is yes. 

Romans 12:1

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.”

So it’s easier said, than done, isn’t it? Presenting our bodies as a living sacrifice, giving up oneself for the greater good of others, or even because we are asked to by those in authority over us isn’t always easy, but if we want hearts that are obedient to God we will do just that.

Melissa from Maidservants of Christ tells about one of those times. Please click See More to read the entire article.

The Other Side of Service

written by Melissa at Maidservants of Christ

I loathe Vacation Bible School.  I have lots of reasons, some valid, some trivial.  I think it is a relic of a bygone era that doesn’t meet the evangelistic needs of the Church today.  I think cookies and Kool-aid at eight in the evening is a really bad idea, especially since many kids are already up past their bedtime.  Loud silly songs grate on my nerves and don’t seem to serve any educational purpose.  If I had my way, we would find some other way to reach the children in our neighborhoods for Christ.  So last year, I helped prepare for VBS and taught one of the classes.


Yes, I cheerfully got involved in an effort I don’t really believe in.  Why?  Because the leadership in my congregation had decided that VBS was worth doing, and the organizers needed help.  Sometimes being a servant means doing what you are asked to do whether you want to do it or not.

– See more at: Maidservants of Christ

If we fail to lay aside our selves, we are choosing to be disobedient to God. Yes, there are some who have specific gifts such as teaching, or encouraging, but that doesn’t mean we can stop serving simply because we don’t have a talent. Rather, we must use the talents we do have for the encouragement of the entire body. We must serve even when the service isn’t what we want to do. Why? Because God desires your obedience and in doing so, you present your sacrifice to the Father. 

Melissa lives in Tennessee and is the mother of 3 children. She and her co-blogger Helene blog regularly at Maidservants of Christ. Their goal is to speak the truth in love to those who read their blog. They aren’t afraid to tackle the tough stuff but do so with compassion and love. While your visiting be sure to hit the subscribe button to get encouragement directly in your inbox.

~This article written by team member Renee Brown.


Posted by on January 27, 2014 in Christian, Encouragement, Faithfulness, Service


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